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The 7 Coaching Symptoms That Can Dwarf Your Success

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Are you a coach suffering with SDCD…..
Seven Dwarfs Coaching Disorder?

What? You’ve never heard of SDCD? SDCD (Seven Dwarfs Coaching Disorder) has been found to affect the optimal function of professional coaches who have dedicated their time and money to Be Brilliant at what they do!

If you have any signs of these behavioral disorder symptoms you might have a form of SDCD: Sleepy, Sleezy, Bashful, Happy, Grumpy, Dopey and Doc.

SDCD can be contracted at any stage of your coaching career but most cases are reported in the new and emerging coach. When you have SDCD, your business goals often seem out of control. Staying organized and on top of things can be extremely challenging–as is sorting out what information is relevant to grow a successful business, prioritize things you need to do, keep track of tasks and responsibilities, and effectively manage your time so you can be a brilliant coach.

There are seven common symptoms to be aware of:
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  • Sleepy: inability to sustain your energy for marketing or the energy to keep your business going
  • Sleezy: has a strong feeling of insecurity and shame when sharing your fees with a prospective client or conversely feeling a sense of strong attachment to “closing the deal” no matter what.
  • Bashful: is the “hidden” coach, difficulty articulating who you are and what you offer, insecure when talking about coaching with others.
  • Happy: feels like everything is just great even though you wish it could be better, may be highly energetic and perpetually “on the go” doing many things at once and not making any progress but feeling like you are busy so things must be ok
  • Grumpy: constantly complains about how you wish things were better, blames others for your lack of success, is never satisfied no matter what opportunities come your way, always judges your actions and in-actions
  • Dopey: doesn’t feel smart enough to know what it takes to be successful as a coach, frequently forgets to record mileage and other business expenses, forgets to take care of yourself while taking care of your business, constantly loses track of your progress, misplaces appointment book and business receipts
  • Doc: strong desire to fix your clients problems, freely offers advice on what should be done next, tries anything to just survive, won’t charge for coaching till you “get better” at it.
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Do your best to identify the areas where you experience difficulty.

Once you pinpoint your most problematic symptoms, you can start to work on strategies for managing them. Here are just a few strategies you can begin to consider:
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  • Get enough rest and play. Remember self-care is crucial to your success.
  • Value your expertise. Decide what fees are best for you and feel confident with your decision until you are ready to go to the next level.
  • Be confident. Get clear about who you are as a coach and the benefit you provide your ideal client.
  • Focus on what you have accomplished. Continue to work towards your goals. Seize the opportunities as they arise and feel good about what you are creating.
  • Acknowledge yourself. You have accomplished a lot since your coach training. Recognize the powerful choice you have made to be a coach. Share your passion and purpose to make a difference in the world.
  • Slow down. Take one step at a time so that you feel in control of your business. Stay organized and do only the tasks that you love and delegate the rest.
  • Stay curious and open. Engage with your coaching colleagues to challenge your thinking, get out of your coaching box, hone your skills and hire a coach or mentor for support.
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If the symptoms of SDCD are still getting in the way of your success, despite self-coaching efforts to manage them, it may be time to seek outside support.

A professional Mentor Coach trained in SDCD can support you to:
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  • Review and strengthen your coaching skills
  • Build your confidence
  • Set achievable goals
  • Overcome blocks to growing your coaching business
  • Work on your own personal and professional development
  • Plan and promote your coaching business
  • Be Brilliant at what you do

[/fancy_list] Here’s what you need to remember from this article to BE BRILLIANT at what you do:

Know the seven symptoms of SDCD: Sleepy, Sneezy, Bashful, Happy, Grumpy, Dopey and Doc.

Apply these strategies for managing the behavioral symptoms that interrupt your success:
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  1. Get enough rest and play.
  2. Value your expertise.
  3. Be confident.
  4. Focus on what you have accomplished.
  5. Acknowledge yourself.
  6. Slow down.
  7. Stay curious and open.
  8. Work with a Mentor Coach to Be Brilliant at what you do.
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You can still shine, no matter how frazzled, frustrated and out of control you might feel growing your business. With structure, support, and a coaching toolkit, you can boost your coaching skills and Be Brilliant at what you do.

Photo of 7 dwarves by Loren Javier – FLICKR.COM

In Search of the Holy Should!

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Writing is not one of my easy, just do it now kind of talents.  I have to be inspired about something to write. Well, wouldn’t you know that just when I felt like the writing muses had deserted me, I went to an ICF New England event meeting last week. Talk about a dose of inspiration! Wow, I left that event on fire. The evening speaker was Tama Kieves, a career and success coach. She was engaging, funny, inspiring and a wonderful storyteller. Her passion was palpable and infectious. I swear that every person in the room felt like she was telling their story.

I came home excited to be excited again but what should I do with this excitement , how was I going to make it work for me?

I asked this question all week. I got coached on this question all week. I started reading her most recent book INSPIRED & UNSTOPPABLE and every page kept that fire burning.  I didn’t want to lose the excitement and inspiration that was coursing through my veins and filling my heart.  And then I had a mental breakthrough–not a mental breakdown, although sometimes a breakdown is just what leads to a breakthrough.  I realized that I was doing something with my excitement– I was sharing it with others to inspire others to their own action. I was using that inspiration in my coaching sessions, sharing her quotes and reading from her book- YES, seriously! I read a passage from her book to one of my clients and it brought him to tears! It spoke to him, touched his heart, cracked him wide open!  The inspiration was infectious and it started inspiring others to see their gifts and their talents, to be excited about their dreams!  All week I had been wondering what was the ONE thing I should be doing to harness this energy that would make the difference in my business or in my next big adventure. I didn’t even know if I had a next big adventure.

I was doing it without even realizing it.

I was so pre-ocuppied by what “it” should be that I was missing “it” in each moment. I was coaching with my heart on fire, open to give and receive, I was listening so deeply to my clients that I knew what quote would make the difference and that reading from the book would be just the right catalyst.  I was in the moment, I was trusting every inspiration that was coming through me. The key word here is TRUST what was coming through.

I just finished a coaching session with a colleague, (we are supporting each other to stay “inspired and unstoppable”). She was asking a similar question about a book she just wrote, what was the next thing to make her book really happen. Then through our coaching together, she realized that everything she was doing was supporting the book’s success and to just trust that it was all leading her there. Trust again!

How many times do you search for the “holy should be doing” when all along it is already happening?

Take pause….. recognize what you ARE doing, what you are experiencing every day.

Here are a few coaching questions in the moment to keep you in what I like to call, the power of TRUST:

  • How is what I am doing right now supporting my inspirations, dreams, musings, goals?
  • What am I doing naturally that I am not noticing?
  • How much of this is about being not doing– who I am and how I show up?
  • How can I use this natural way of being as a way to support everything I do for myself, as well as for others?
  • How can I trust “it is happening” in every moment, in every experience?
  • What stops me from trusting?
  • How can I shift my awareness to trust more and more in every moment?

Your answers to these questions might be different than mine but DO coach yourself and answer these questions.
See what comes naturally to you and how you do “it” without even trying to make “it” happen.

You just might surprise yourself or at least take a sigh of relief that “it” is happening even without you “making it happen“.

Comment how you stay in a place of trust and how “it” is happening for you.

Put me in Coach, I‘m ready to play!

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It’s April and that means it is time for Opening Day for Baseball season, a sure sign that spring has arrived and summer is on it’s way. What does that have to do with coaching? Everything if you are in the game. But what about professional life or business coaching?

In my recent newsletter, I mentioned how coaching was a lot like the lottery—you can’t win if you don’t play!  I started thinking about what it takes to get in the game and really play. It got me a bit teary-eyed because I couldn’t help but recall all those years sitting in the stands watching my son play baseball–I loved those days!

I remembered his passion and love for the sport. Nothing came before baseball. He never missed practice, he lived, breathed and dreamed the sport,he surrounded himself with friends that had the same passion and excitement for the sport and always was an inspiration and leader  for his team even if he didn’t get a chance to play.

I admired his passion and tenacity at such a young age and I loved being part of the MOB (Mother’s of Baseball). : )

 

 

 

 

As a certified coach you have what it takes to get in the game, even if you are a rookie.

You have to be passionate about what you do and tenacious about doing it. You can’t sit the bench, and watch your teammates play and tell yourself you need more experience before you can get in the game. In the words of  John Fogarty you have to tell yourself “Put me in Coach, I‘m ready to play, today!”  You have to decide what playing the game means to you and how you can make it happen.

Here are a few tips to help you get in the game:

  • Connect to your passion and what drives you to want to play the game. Let that fuel you to avoid grounding out to the short stop. See only opportunities, no problems or challenges.
  • Surround yourself with raving fans, peers and colleagues that share your excitement and support you to hit that home run!
  • Create the perfect play. Make it a priority in your life and create a doable plan by knowing what kind of player you are and how willing you are to commit to your game.
  • Never miss practice. Walk the talk—make coaching a way of life even outside the 1:1 client session to build confidence and role model coaching principles.
  • Get a Coach. Every great player has a great coach that will champion you, bring out your strengths and support your brilliance and talent.

 

Here is a little inspiration to get you up and moving from John Fogarty:

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When I need the inspiration to stay in the game, I remember the passion and tenacity of a boy in love with his sport.

I played the game and now my son will celebrate his 23rd birthday (which sometimes lands on Opening Day) and is ready to graduate college, in well, what else….sports management. And he still really loves baseball. : )

Here’s to getting in the game.  PLAY BALL!

Please post a comment and share with us how you get in the game.

Does Your Business Need an Alka Seltzer?

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Ok so I am really fired up and had to make this post.

I have had too many of my clients coming to me in sheer overwhelm from the massive amounts of advice and information available online keeping them from doing what they do best–COACHING!

It reminds me of being at the all-you-can eat buffet; sometimes you just eat too much and you are stuffed!  It reminded me of the popular 1969 “Spicy Meatball” Alka Seltzer Commercial above – trying it one more time, till it’s right.

Do you feel stuffed? Does your business need an Alka Seltzer because you are upset with yourself for trying to fit into someone else’s model of success and you just don’t have room for one more “you should do this…” “you should do that…” “you need to do this…” “you need to do that…” ?

It can be tempting to overindulge because it is all so seductive! You find yourself saying, “Maybe if I just do this one program” or “I’ll just download this video series” or “everyone IS raving about this, it must be good” and “they have incredible testimonials, so”…

Surprisingly enough, the all-you-can-eat business-building virtual buffet can be a successful resource if you exercise discipline and restraint when making your selections.

Here’s how to indulge at the virtual business-building buffet without feeling so stuffed that you just can’t make a move:

Pace Yourself

When you start building your business you are excited and eager to get going. There is so much to choose from that you want to try it all. Fill your plate with one course at a time. Digest the experience and the learning before starting something new. Apply the learning- start coaching! This will help satisfy you, so you’ll be less tempted by the very next option for something bigger and better.

 

Choose Consciously

It’s important to choose your options wisely. Know what suits your taste. Make sure it matches your learning style and work ethic. Choosing a certain path or option for growth out of fear and lack is not going to satisfy you in the long run, it just might make you feed a hunger that can’t be satiated.

Have a Strategy

Decide how and where you want to invest in your professional development. Consider what you can afford to spend, the time you are willing to devote, how you want to grow and your desired outcome. Research your options and know what you are committing to.

Avoid Heavy Sauces

Many business-building buffets are heavy on the sauce. Be aware of offers that create urgency to get you to buy now. Consider if you will ever access the ten free bonus offers that come with the program. Read that money back guarantee carefully and feel free to ask what the percentage of returns have been. Notice if the testimonials really state their results. Be wary of learning everything that took years to develop in just 3 weeks. Bear in mind the time and effort that is required to be successful.

Develop a Relationship

Get to know the person you want to work with through free teleclasses, webinars, video series, blog posts, books, newsletters etc. and see if they are a good fit with you. Check with your trusted peers and colleagues to see whom they have had a good experience with.

Trust Your Gut

You can create anything you want. It doesn’t have to follow someone else’s model. You can do it your way, even if that means you want to go slow or don’t have the need to make six figures in six months or don’t really want to do video or whatever it is that you think you should do but don’t really feel the desire to do. You have to be satisfied with whatever you choose. Follow your heart and trust yourself enough to be who it is that you are, no matter what ” they” say you should be doing.

Know When Enough Is Enough

There comes a time when you realize that all the best programs, knowledge, and know-how won’t create your success. You are the only one that can decide that you are ready to make that happen. It comes with experience, trial and error, confidence and knowing who you are and how you want to show up for yourself and those around you. You don’t need to try one more thing again and again and again. Heck I did it the other day, bought a $200 program, oh no sorry $197 program, from someone I have worked with before, only to find out that the information was a lot of what I have already gotten from previous programs. Really? I hate when I do that!

It is a constant effort to remind yourself that all the answers do really lie within and you have what it takes to be successful.

You just need to get out there and start coaching. The impact you create will be enough to keep you full, satisfied, and moving forward toward the success you desire.

Here are a few coaching questions to ask yourself:

–How will I make my selections more wisely?

–How can I demonstrate discipline and discernment to avoid overwhelm?

–Who can support me when I feel like I have had enough and need to get un-stuffed?

–What plan can I put in place to access the best resources to grow my business that is right for me?

The next time you sit down at the business-building buffet make the conscious choices that fully nourish you and your business!

The 6 Coaching Questions You Don’t Want To Ask

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What would a professional coach be without questions, especially powerful and empowering questions?

Every coach knows that along with the skill of listening, powerful questioning is the key skill to master to Be Brilliant at what you do. Effective, empowering questions evoke inspiration, creativity, motivation, and self-discovery for your clients.

But what about the powerful questions that are not so powerful that you don’t want to ask?

Here are six coaching questions you want to avoid asking your clients in any session. Ask only powerful and empowering questions that make your client shine.

#1 Why ?’s

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In a coaching session, why can feel overwhelming. Why questions are too big, they cause clients to go into their left-brain thinking of reasoning and rationalizing. Truly powerful questions access your clients’ creative right-brain thinking so they can create possibilities and solutions.

Why questions can also create defensiveness. You always want to maintain rapport with your clients and an atmosphere of safety and trust.

So when you feel the urge to ask a why question, see if you can rephrase it to What is it about…..

“Why are you upset about this?” Rephrase to: “What is it about this situation that upsets you or you find upsetting?

#2 Stacking ?’s

You love asking powerful questions, right? Do you sometimes have so many questions to ask you just don’t know which one to ask first and so you decide to ask them all…. one after the other?

Or maybe you ask the question and there is a pause from your client, so you are sure that they must need another better, clearer question to answer, so you ask yet another one before they answered the first one.

Or how about this, you ask a question and it doesn’t feel quite like the question you wanted to ask, so you immediately rephrase it until it feels right…to you.

Now you are left with a client who is confused and uncertain as to which question they should answer.

When you ask a question, your client immediately starts to process that question. When you ask another question right after that, now you have interrupted their thought process.

They are trying to follow it all but they feel confused and unclear how to answer. This is not empowering for your client.

Ask one question, let that question be heard and processed. To be a brilliant coach it is so important for you to be comfortable with silence and pause to allow your client to be with the question and allow their brilliance to shine.

#3 Long-Winded ?’s

Do you ever ask questions like this:

“How do you know that you are not a good writer because I heard you say that you have written lots of good articles and you know that writing articles is not one of your strengths but you did it, so what else might it be telling you about your ability to write well or even if you are a good writer and what if you could write well, what would you do differently?”

“Huh?”

Convoluted, long-winded, complicated questions are the cousins to Stacking ?’s and they make your client confused and uncertain about what they are responding to or even how to respond. Here is where the session can take a U turn instead of forwarding-the-action.

Keep your sentence structure simple and your questions succinct.
Your questions must be clear and to the point.

Avoid long-winded explanations. If you want to point out an observation, then do that first then ask your question in relationship to that observation.

The above question might sound more like this:

“I heard you say that you have written many good articles. I’m curious, what makes you think you are not a good writer? “

STOP! Wait for your client’s response. This may mean that you have to be comfortable with pause. Your next question will emerge from there. Remember: KISC—Keep it simple coach!

#4 Rhetorical ?’s

Are rhetorical questions the kind of questions you ask but don’t really want an answer?

Rhetorical questions are questions that we use more as a statement for effect with no answer expected. The answer may be obvious or implied by how the question is posed.

These questions are asked when you are make judgments or interpretations of what it is your client is sharing with you and can sometimes lead to “I don’t know” answers.

A rhetorical question might sound like this:

“How are you going to find the time to get the plan done if you don’t have the time?”

“How will you plan to get that done without a plan?”

Instead, you might ask the above question in this way:

“How much time do you think it will take you to create the plan?”

When you feel the urge for a rhetorical question coming on… STOP! Take a step back and self-manage your interpretation of the issue. Be curious; ask clarifying questions, so that you know what the client means from their perspective. From here you can ask the empowering and powerful questions that will keep the client moving forward with objective and clear support.

#5 Leading ?’s

As a coach, you trust that your clients have the answer but how many times do you have the urge to just tell them what to do? Instead, you might just ask a question that might lead them to what you have in mind. It’s still a question, right?

Yes, but not a very empowering one. Leading questions are just a clever way to direct the client’s thinking or perspective on an issue in the way that you think they should consider. The client hasn’t referenced it himself and you think it is just what he needs to do.

STOP! Stay with what the client is telling you and ask questions based on that. What you think is best, may not be the solution for your client.

A Leading ? might sound like this:

“You are clearly overwhelmed. How about approaching this one step at a time and create a plan?”

“What about just asking for the extra time you need?”

Instead, you could rephrase to a more empowering question:

“What you are saying is you feel overwhelmed, what is a possible approach you could take considering your situation?”

Really trust that the client knows what to do and how to do it. Stay just with what the client is saying and ask your questions from there. Trust the coaching process and resist the urge to lead them in a certain direction.

#6 Close-ended ?’s

Last but not least, close-ended questions. Of course, you know not to ask close-ended questions. You received good training, right? So at all costs avoid these bad boys. They are nothing but bad news because they just don’t give your clients the chance to tap into their brilliance.

Close-ended questions are limited and access only the left side of the brain to elicit a yes or no answer. We know that in conversation we ask these types of questions all the time and no one ever just answers yes or no, they tell you the story, of course.

In a coaching session, to truly Be Brilliant at what you do, your questions have to be open-ended, empowering, powerful and thought provoking questions that probe, inspire, motivate and create greater self-awareness. Here the client can access the right side of the brain where creativity, possibility and opportunity are waiting to emerge for them. Empowering, open-ended questions are a win-win—you get to Be Brilliant and your client gets to shine.

Here’s what you need to remember from this article to Be Brilliant at what you do:

Avoid these 6 confusing questions in every session:

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Instead, ask empowering and powerful questions that are always thought provoking, succinct, inspiring, motivating, open-ended and invite self-awareness.

How to Roast a Gremlin

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The Perfect Recipe To Calm The Inner Critic

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In this quote from TAMING YOUR GREMLIN by Rick Carson, he describes, so clearly, the behavior of the inner critic, fondly referred to as the gremlin. Let’s face it, we all have an inner critic and it likes to get particularly pushy when we want to step out and do something new; especially when we want to act on our brilliance and shine!

It tells us: “Forget it! Stop! What are you thinking? You can’t do that, you are not smart enough, good enough, brilliant enough, blah, blah, blah!”

Crucial in the coaching relationship, is the ability of the coach to hear the when the client’s “gremlin” is doing the talking. Helping your clients to become aware of their own internal blocks, allows the client to create the strategies to manage them more effectively, and eventually shift the self-defeating energy they hold to a more self-empowering energy that moves the client forward to their desired outcome.

[blockquote align=”center” variation=”blue”]The International Coach Federation Core Competency #5 is ACTIVE LISTENING – Ability to focus completely on what the client is saying and is not saying, to understand the meaning of what is said in the context of the client’s desires, and to support client self-expression.[/blockquote]

The skill of Active and Intuitive Listening becomes essential to uncover blocks when they arise. When the coach listens at this deep level she/he hears what is not being said, and listens between the lines at the core energy that is driving the client’s behavior, the coach can hear the client’s values and beliefs about what is and is not possible. A coach then can go beyond the presenting issue to the real block that is holding the client back from their goal.

At one of the COACHES CAFÉ’s Ask the Mentor Monthly Calls, one of our coaches asked this question about blocks:

[dropcap2 variation=”blue”]Q.[/dropcap2] “When trying to realize concrete goals, like getting a new job, I find that clients often discover there is a lot of internal work to be done: gremlins, limiting beliefs, fears, insecurities, self doubt etc. What is the best way to deal with these issues when they come up? I often feel stretched to handle these and help them find their own answers.”

The answer was addressed as follows:

[dropcap2 variation=”blue”]A.[/dropcap2] “Everyone would have what they want, unless something was blocking them, right? (even a new job) This is just the place when inner work becomes so powerful. Often it can be a lifetime of inner blocks that are holding them back.

“As the coach, your role is to ask the empowering questions that allow your clients to discover their challenges, realize their possibilities, and create opportunities. If you are listening at a deep level, often you can hear and identify what block is in the way. Then it can provide the next powerful and empowering question that can begin to reveal that block or break that block down for your clients.

“Awareness is the first step. Once your clients begin to acknowledge what is in the way, it gives them back the power to manage it more confidently and create inspired action toward their desired outcome.

“Feeling stretched as the coach? Well, that is perhaps “your gremlin” coming for a visit. When do you feel stretched as a coach?

“See if you can ask yourself what is going on when this feeling occurs and become more aware of who is talking…you or your gremlin?

“As a professional certified coach, you have the training and the skills to manage this. If you are challenged to work through it on your own, ask your coach for support or consider professional mentoring to hone your skills more effectively to handle difficult situations as they arise with your clients.”

Gremlins are not so difficult, really.
You just need a good recipe to follow.

Here are some recipe tips we use at the COACHES CAFE to prepare the Gremlin for Roasting. Hope you find them useful and tasty.

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]1[/dropcap2]Make sure that you have removed any outside covering such as shell, spines, hair, scales etc. Gremlins come in many, many varieties and can have many different outer protective layers. If not removed, it can make the gremlin hard to swallow!

What makes your gremlin hard to swallow?

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]2[/dropcap2]Next it is critical to tenderize the gremlin no matter what type you are preparing. Gremlins can be tough, highly unpalatable, and often give off a terrible odor when cooking. At the COACHES CAFE we cook with intention and will submerge the gremlin in a water bath filled with patience, understanding, compassion and even love. This is the best way to tenderize the gremlin to a sweet flavor and remove the unpleasant odors.

How can you tenderize your gremlin to make it more palatable?

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]3[/dropcap2]Keep the gremlin in this water bath to tenderize as long as needed. Some gremlins are tougher than others. This requires the skill of the chef to recognize the signs that indicate when the gremlin is ready for roasting. One sure sign is to prick it with a fork to see if it is softer and more pliable!

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]4[/dropcap2]If it is taking longer to tenderize than you have time for, you can take the risk to turn up the heat. Just keep a close eye on it because if the heat is too hot, you run the risk of it getting even tougher!

What signs do you recognize that show you that YOUR gremlin is just about ready for roasting?

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]5[/dropcap2]Once you get your gremlin tender and it exudes a sweeter aroma, you can remove it from the water bath and gently shred it to the consistency of pulled pork (or spaghetti squash if you are a vegetarian).

At this point, it might seem like it is good enough to eat, but at the COACHES CAFE we like to take it a step further.

How do you break your gremlin down?

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]6[/dropcap2]Once the gremlin is in parts and pieces you can lace it with a delicate marinade of purposeful intention. At the COACHES CAFE we want our gremlin to taste like sweet success, inner strength, confidence, joy and fulfillment; and we roast it to perfection till those flavors are completely infused.

What flavors do you want to infuse into your gremlin that will make it nourish just what you want?

[dropcap2 variation=”green”]7[/dropcap2]Then set your table and celebrate your delicious accomplishment and begin to digest all of your juicy possibilities and opportunities!

What possibilities and opportunities are you ready to digest?

ABBONDANZA!!

Here’s what you need to remember from this article to Be Brilliant at what you do:

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  1. Hear when the client’s “gremlin” is doing the talking.
  2. Help your clients become aware of their own internal blocks so they can create the strategies to manage them more effectively.
  3. Engage active and intuitive listening skills to uncover blocks when they arise.
  4. Listen for the client’s values and beliefs about what is and is not possible.
  5. Shift self-defeating energy to a more self-empowering energy that moves the client forward to their desired outcome.
  6. Go beyond the presenting issue to the real issue that is holding your clients back from their goals.
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Follow our simple recipe:
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  1. Remove the outer covering
  2. Tenderize
  3. Shred it down
  4. Marinate with purposeful intention
  5. Infuse with sweet success
  6. Digest your juicy possibilities and opportunities
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The next time your “gremlin” gets particularly pushy, this recipe helps to stretch yourself to act on your brilliance and shine!